Releasing Anger And Resentment

Releasing anger and resentment

What you'll learn
You will get to know how do you reach a state of forgiveness
You will get to know what happens if you can't forgive someone
You will get to know What are the benefits of forgiving someone?
What if I'm the one who needs forgiveness?
Requirements
no programming experience needed you will learn everything yo need to know
Description
What is forgiveness?Forgiveness means different things to different people. Generally, however, it involves a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge.The act that hurt or offended you might always be with you, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help free you from the control of the person who harmed you. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you.Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting or excusing the harm done to you or making up with the person who caused the harm. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with life.What are the benefits of forgiving someone?Letting go of grudges and bitterness can make way for improved health and peace of mind. Forgiveness can lead to:Healthier relationshipsImproved mental healthLess anxiety, stress and hostilityLower blood pressureFewer symptoms of depressionA stronger immune systemImproved heart healthImproved self-esteemWhy is it so easy to hold a grudge?Being hurt by someone, particularly someone you love and trust, can cause anger, sadness and confusion. If you dwell on hurtful events or situations, grudges filled with resentment, vengeance and hostility can take root. If you allow negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice.Some people are naturally more forgiving than others. But even if you're a grudge holder, almost anyone can learn to be more forgiving.What are the effects of holding a grudge?If you're unforgiving, you might:Bring anger and bitterness into every relationship and new experienceBecome so wrapped up in the wrong that you can't enjoy the presentBecome depressed or anxiousFeel that your life lacks meaning or purpose, or that you're at odds with your spiritual beliefsLose valuable and enriching connectedness with othersHow do I reach a state of forgiveness?Forgiveness is a commitment to a personalized process of change. To move from suffering to forgiveness, you might:Recognize the value of forgiveness and how it can improve your lifeIdentify what needs healing and who needs to be forgiven and for whatConsider joining a support group or seeing a counselorAcknowledge your emotions about the harm done to you and how they affect your behavior, and work to release themChoose to forgive the person who's offended youMove away from your role as victim and release the control and power the offending person and situation have had in your lifeAs you let go of grudges, you'll no longer define your life by how you've been hurt. You might even find compassion and understanding.What happens if I can't forgive someone?Forgiveness can be challenging, especially if the person who's hurt you doesn't admit wrong. If you find yourself stuck:Practice empathy. Try seeing the situation from the other person's point of view.Ask yourself why he or she would behave in such a way. Perhaps you would have reacted similarly if you faced the same situation.Reflect on times you've hurt others and on those who've forgiven you.Write in a journal, pray or use guided meditation — or talk with a person you've found to be wise and compassionate, such as a spiritual leader, a mental health provider, or an impartial loved one or friend.Be aware that forgiveness is a process, and even small hurts may need to be revisited and forgiven over and over again.Does forgiveness guarantee reconciliation?If the hurtful event involved someone whose relationship you otherwise value, forgiveness can lead to reconciliation. This isn't always the case, however.Reconciliation might be impossible if the offender has died or is unwilling to communicate with you. In other cases, reconciliation might not be appropriate. Still, forgiveness is possible — even if reconciliation isn't.What if the person I'm forgiving doesn't change?Getting another person to change his or her actions, behavior or words isn't the point of forgiveness. Think of forgiveness more about how it can change your life — by bringing you peace, happiness, and emotional and spiritual healing. Forgiveness can take away the power the other person continues to wield in your life.What if I'm the one who needs forgiveness?The first step is to honestly assess and acknowledge the wrongs you've done and how they have affected others. Avoid judging yourself too harshly.If you're truly sorry for something you've said or done, consider admitting it to those you've harmed. Speak of your sincere sorrow or regret, and ask for forgiveness — without making excuses.Remember, however, you can't force someone to forgive you. Others need to move to forgiveness in their own time. Whatever happens, commit to treating others with compassion, empathy and respect.

Overview

Section 1: Releasing anger and resentment

Lecture 1 Trailer

Lecture 2 Summary

Lecture 3 PART 1

Lecture 4 PART 2

Lecture 5 PART 3

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