Healing Preoccupied Attachment

A meditation-based experiential course for doing the work of healing anxious-preoccupied attachment

What you'll learn
The emotional and behavioral patterns of Preoccupied Attachment
Powerful visualization medititations that repattern Preoccupied Attachment and help process trauma
Techniques for emotional regulation and metacognition when feeling triggered
Greater understanding of relationship dynamics and ability to set boundaries
Requirements
No background experience needed. A basic understanding of attachment theory may be beneficial but is not required; unlike other courses, this is experiential and practically oriented.
Description
This program will equip you with the knowledge and meditation practices to start the healing process from Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment to Secure Attachment.The primary modality is guided, visualization meditation that uses “perfect nurturers” to reparent our inner child. This is done to create emotionally corrective experiences. These emotionally corrective experiences bring about memory reconsolidation, what Bruce Ecker calls “transformational change”.In addition to the attachment repair meditations with the perfect nurturers, there will be exercises to recognize our particular preoccupied patterns daily life, bring them to consciousness, and repattern them.In This Course We Will CoverRepatterning the core, unconscious, negative emotional beliefs (Schemas) of:Attachment Domain: Domain IAbandonment & InstabilityShame & DefectivenessEmotional DeprivationImpaired Autonomy and Performance: Domain IIDependence & IncompetenceVulnerability to Harm and IllnessEnmeshment & Underdeveloped SelfFailure to AchieveOther Directedness: Domain IVSelf-SubjugationSelf-SacrificeApproval Seeking & Recognition SeekingThe recognition and replacement of Dysfunctional Behaviors (”Modes”) such asSurrender compliance modes of not standing up for yourselfAvoidance modes, especially around avoiding your own explorations and self-assertionCorrecting metacognitive (mentalization) deficitsBetter emotional regulation techniques especially for difficulty discussions with loved onesBetter identification and understanding of your present moment experience (mindfulness) especially as it relates to anxious-preoccupied mental states.Better ability to make meaning out of your life in such a way to facilitate compassion, acceptance, and healing.Learning to balance emotional and cognitive perspectives at the same timeLearning to hold the other’s “mind in mind”Learning to hold one’s own self in mind (valuing your own perspectives and desires)Correcting non-cooperative speech patterns – Drawing from the Adult Attachment Interview and Grice’s Maxims of cooperative speech:Learning to monitor what is and is not relevant to the conversationLearning to monitor what is and is not an appropriate amount of time to ‘hold onto the conversational turn’ before turning it over to your conversation partnerLearning to monitor your speech so that it is clear and easily understood by your conversation partnerLearn to own and value your own desiresThat “what you want matters.”Differentiation of sincere concern and compassion from self-sacrifice and self-subjugationBreaking free from approval and recognition seeks & feeling internally validatedDifferentiating shame, guilt, and healthy remorseHealthy Self Development vs EnmeshmentThis meditation course draws on:Attachment Theory (Bowlby, Ainsworth, et al)Ideal Parent Figure Protocol (Brown, et al)Inner Child Work (Bradshaw, et al)Schema Therapy (Young, et al)Coherence Therapy (Ecker, et al)Mentalization-Based Treatment (Fonagy, et al)Metacognitive Therapy (DiMaggio, et al.)Buddhist Visualization PracticesMindfulness PracticeThe material for this course was recorded during a live course and includes Q&A from participants.

Overview

Section 1: Introduction to Attachment Theory and Schema Therapy

Lecture 1 Introduction to Attachment Theory and Schema Therapy

Section 2: Memory Reconsolidation and the Primary Attachment Schemas

Lecture 2 Memory Reconsolidation and the Primary Attachment Schemas

Section 3: Troubleshooting and Coping Modes

Lecture 3 Troubleshooting and Coping Modes

Section 4: The Adult Attachment Interview

Lecture 4 The Adult Attachment Interview

Section 5: Metacognition

Lecture 5 Metacognition

Section 6: Correcting The Relationship Traps Of Preoccupied Attachment

Lecture 6 Correcting the Relationship Traps of Preoccupied Attachment

Section 7: Guilt vs Compassion

Lecture 7 Guilt vs Compassion

Section 8: Trauma, Anxiety, and Agency

Lecture 8 Trauma, Anxiety, and Agency

Section 9: Developing the Healthy Adult Self

Lecture 9 Developing the Healthy Adult Self

Anyone with features of Preoccupied Attachment or interested in understanding it,People who want to understand their implicit beliefs about the world, others, and themselves,Anyone who has tried traditional therapies with limited success