Bizarre (1987)

A woman escapes her sadomasochistic relationship with her husband for a new life, but her past overwhelms her, causing her to lose her young lover and kill her husband.

Lorenza and Corbi's marriage revolves around sexual games with menacing scripts and voyeurism. When she's finally had enough, she leaves for their beach house and gets involved with a gardener, the younger, androgynous Edward. But Corbi is difficult to escape, physically and psychologically: he spies on the lovers, hires goons to assault Edward, and maintains a hold over Laurie's imagination. Taking advantage of Edward's soft looks, she dresses him as a woman and herself as a man in a plot to ensnare and humiliate Corbi in his wanton ways. Will the plan work? Do Laurie and Edward have a future?

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